Paul Alker, Mark Bushell, Emma Armstrong, Max Hart, and Craig Kelly
At the micro-level, VAWG is often framed as a result of individual actions – abuse jperpetrated by an abusive partner, a violent stranger, or an online harasser. While it is true that acts of violence are carried out by individuals, this perspective alone risks obscuring the broader conditions that shape violent behaviours. In this penultimate post of the series, we explore how individual biographies and the psyche function in light of the points laid out in previous posts, exploring how the three levels of the macro, meso and micro intersect.
Research conducted by Ultra-Realist scholars has previously sought to make sense of male violence (see Ellis, 2015; Winlow, 2001), although it has not focused specifically on VAWG. Here, Ellis, Winlow, Hall and others, argue that individual biographies alongside macro, structural conditions can be used to understand subjective violence – physical violence inflicted by one individual upon another (Žižek, 2009), perpetrated by a small minority of men, a line of thinking we will follow in this post. The individuals they encountered sought to navigate and cope with past trauma by adopting a strategy in which they ‘retaliate first’, launching a pre-emptive strike against those who act as a symbolic substitute for past aggressors – violent fathers, bullies or opponents in street fights – in an attempt to prevent the return of the original feeling of humiliation (Winlow and Hall, 2009). Although these empirical explorations are particularly useful for understanding male violence perpetrated against other men, we would still encourage the reader to engage with these texts directly. Here though, we expand upon some of the ideas directly relating to VAWG and offer some original insights from other areas of ultra-realism’s theoretical arsenal and theoretical psychoanalysis.
In this the blog series so far, it has been determined that events at the structural cultural and organisational level may create the conditions that give rise to VAWG. To qualify this, it is perhaps instructive here to consider the role of absence (Kotzé and Lloyd, 2022). The present post-crash, post-pandemic world of sustained austerity under successive Labour and Conservative governments has served to exacerbate the already existing systemic violence of neoliberalism, leading to further labour market instability, which alongside the absence of welfare and other support mechanisms has resulted in increased precarity and economic insecurity (Hall and Winlow, 2015; Telford, 2025). Additionally, the withdrawal of funding from important public services in the realm of education and mental health support have served to exacerbate the issue further.
The absence of opportunities for ‘success’ and the failure to attain what the neoliberal consumer capitalist system promises the individual if they play the game, often leads to feelings of shame and a lack of opportunity to attain positive recognition from peers and others in society. This can significantly impact the individual’s sense of what Billingham and Irwin-Rogers (2022) refer to as ‘mattering’. For the duo, mattering allows the individual to feel both significant and recognised by others, alongside providing the feeling that they have agency and power to shape their lives and impact the world around them in a positive manner. They highlight the deleterious effects of lacking a sense of mattering, demonstrating how its absence can contribute to violence directed both inwardly towards the self and outwardly towards others. Kotzé and Lloyd (2022) therefore highlight the importance of considering what is absent and how this can have a probabilistic causal tendency, leading to resentment, hate and outbursts of subjective violence – physical violence inflicted by one individual upon another (Žižek, 2009). As Žižek (2009) points out, it is important to consider how all three forms of violence are interrelated. Although systemic violence is largely invisible, we must still take it, alongside symbolic violence, into account when trying to understand what might appear to be irrational irruptions of subjective violence.
As Bratich and Banet-Weiser (2019) go on to discuss, the increasing precariousness of neoliberalism following the 2008 financial crisis and the pandemic across many parts of the world has led to a renewed sense of instability and insecurity in relation to employment, welfare support or rising costs of living for many individuals, not only men (see also Gerbaudo, 2018). Yet, as we highlighted in the previous post, some men respond to these experiences of pressure, anxiety and hopelessness by following the rhetoric of manosphere figures such as Andrew Tate, who channel feelings of resentment and dissatisfaction towards women and feminism as the purported source of their predicament. It is the psychic process that helps facilitate this process that will be the focus of this post.
In the Rise of the Right, Winlow et al. (2017) explore the manner in which racism has mutated following the course of neoliberalism. They argue that much of the racism we witness today isn’t an expression of the kind of supremacist thinking that emerged in the shadow of the Western Empire. Rather, the racism we associate with the contemporary right-wing reactionary forces is rooted in a perceived inferiority and the idea that the racial Other has taken something from the white population and continues to pose a threat. Could it be argued that something similar has taken place in the realm of misogyny? Rather than being attributed to the persistence of patriarchy, contemporary misogyny and VAWG could be a consequence of thinking that women and girls are somehow responsible for taking something from men and boys. Or perhaps have access to something that they don’t and therefore they are responsible for the theft of their enjoyment. To explore this, we first need to explain Lacan’s notion of lack and desire.
Desire occurs as a result of our inherent feeling of lack or incompleteness. It is an unavoidable fact of the human condition, and as a result it is impossible to cure – we are unable to achieve a feeling of wholeness. Yet, it is this underlying feeling of ‘objectless anxiety’ (see Hall, 2012) and the desire to overcome it, that animates us to act, compelling us to seek satisfaction in a futile attempt to overcome our sense of lack (McGowan, 2015). Therefore, we are constantly in search of what is known as the ‘lost object’ or what Lacan refers to as the object petit a; the thing that will make us feel whole again and lead to satisfaction – the problem is, this satisfaction can never be met (Kotzé and Lloyd, 2022).
Todd McGowan (2016) argues that capitalism’s harnessing of subjective desire ties the individual to the economic system and propels them into an endless process of searching for satisfaction. Within our existing Symbolic Order, of which consumer culture is a significant part, we believe we can satisfy that lack through our latest purchases or experiences in commodified leisure spaces. Capitalism has its subjects in a constant state of desire by maintaining ‘the promise’ – the belief that a more complete satisfaction exists just around the corner, embodied in the newest commodity (McGowan, 2016). This is a promise which, as has already been noted, can never be kept there – there is no object that will fill the void and make us feel completely satisfied.
Paradoxically, the problem is that as subjects of desire, we don’t want to realise our desire and obtain the lost object. We desire instead to keep thwarting our desire, which in turn keeps us desiring (McGowan, 2015). As McGowan (2016) notes elsewhere, consumer capitalism has been incredibly successful at incorporating this natural disposition – the elementary paradox of human desire – into its functioning. For McGowan, what we find most satisfying is our dissatisfaction. It is the failure to derive satisfaction from what we think we desire that we find most satisfying. Prior to its acquisition, the commodity or the consumer experience holds a sublime status that appears to us as the object of our desire. What often makes an object most desirable is its availability to us – the more out of reach it appears, the more we want it! However, upon the moment of its acquisition, the object begins to lose its appeal. We then continue on in the hope of one day finding the object that can finally satisfy our desire once and for all. In a somewhat perverse manner, we perpetually repeat the cycle of dissatisfaction which drives us to consume only to be dissatisfied once again. And what is more, we know this is the case, yet we disavow such knowledge and cynically continue to act as if we are none the wiser (Žižek, 2009). It is this repeated and renewed dissatisfaction that we ultimately find most satisfying.
The fundamental problem with desire, as Lacan (2007) saw it, is that what we desire is always the desire of the Other. He meant this in every conceivable sense. We have desire for the Other, we wish to be desired by the Other and perhaps most importantly we desire what the Other desires. As such, our desire for what the Other desires renders both envy and resentment constitutive components of human desire (Žižek, 2009). For both Derek Hook (2021) and Stephanie Swales (2022), the subject deals with the impossibility of achieving full enjoyment by imagining that the Other – in this case women – serve not only as a barrier to, but also as a thief of, men’s enjoyment, and that women have a capacity to attain a level of enjoyment that remains elusive to men. This causes the male subject to draw the conclusion that it is the female Other who is ultimately responsible for the theft of their enjoyment. Here, the misogynist, whilst avowing their own lack, disavows the lack of the Other, while falsely assuming that women possess the ability to attain complete satisfaction.
By imagining women as the barrier to their enjoyment, misogynists convince themselves that their dissatisfaction can be solved by controlling or punishing women rather than confronting the impossibility of ever achieving full satisfaction. It perpetuates the misogynistic fantasy that returning women to their subordinate position would restore men’s rightful access to full enjoyment (Hook, 2021). As Žižek (2016) argues, such a social constellation in which the Other is perceived to be infinitely enjoying inevitably generates jealousy. In response, the subject imagines a utopian realm of enjoyment to which the Other has privileged access and from which they themselves are excluded. As McGowan (2003) points out, the sense of immense frustration felt by those who believe they have been robbed of their enjoyment can result in outbursts of anger and violence against those perceived to be guilty of such a crime.
Envy, particularly when deeply ingrained within a societal structure that reinforces competition, often culminates not in the pursuit of one’s own enjoyment but in the destruction of the enjoyment of the Other. When individuals perceive their own fulfilment as unattainable while the other seemingly thrives, resentment festers, leading to acts of symbolic and physical violence aimed at depriving the Other of their perceived advantage. Žižek (2009) described this as the logic of ressentiment, whereby individual subjects, unable to achieve their own satisfaction, instead seek to sabotage the satisfaction of those they believe achieve unbridled enjoyment. In the context of VAWG, this manifests in attempts to police, control, and diminish women’s autonomy – whether through restrictive policies, online harassment, or physical violence.
However, paradoxically, the misogynistic fantasy derives a form of enjoyment from the very dissatisfaction it claims to oppose. As McGowan (2016) argues, subjects often find satisfaction not in overcoming obstacles, but in endlessly reproducing them. The fantasy of stolen enjoyment provides an explanation for feelings of frustration and lack, allowing subjects to continually blame an external Other for their unhappiness. In doing so, resentment itself becomes a source of enjoyment. The misogynist therefore remains attached to the belief that women are responsible for their dissatisfaction because abandoning the fantasy would require confronting a far more unsettling reality: that no amount of control, recognition or success could ever eliminate the constitutive lack at the heart of human subjectivity. The fantasy persists because it transforms dissatisfaction into a meaningful grievance, and in doing so provides its own perverse form of satisfaction or jouissance: a kind of pleasure derived from the pain of suffering (Leader, 2021).
The contemporary figure of the incel illustrates this dynamic particularly well. While the incel consciously presents himself as seeking intimacy, recognition, romantic fulfilment and ultimately sex, he still remains deeply invested in the fantasy that women – commonly referred to as Stacey’s or Foids – are responsible for denying him all of these things (Nagle, 2017; Johanssen, 2021). This grievance provides a source of meaning, identity and enjoyment, whilst also allowing dissatisfaction to be continually renewed. In this sense, the incel becomes attached not only to the prospect of fulfilment, but also to the very obstacles, namely women or so-called alpha males or Chads, that appear to prevent it. The fantasy of exclusion sustains resentment whilst shielding the subject from confronting the more unsettling possibility that no relationship or sexual encounter could ever provide the complete satisfaction he imagines.
Framed this way, contemporary misogyny can be understood not as an outdated remnant of patriarchy, but an active, adaptive response to the crises of neoliberal capitalism and their cultural fallout. When economic instability erodes traditional masculine identities, consumer culture intensifies desires it cannot satisfy and digital spaces provide narratives that externalise feelings of lack and failure, VAWG can emerge as a means of alleviating perceived humiliation and impotence.
As we have seen with the narcissism that animates special liberty (Hall and Winlow, 2015), neoliberal ideology has redirected the watercourse of our powerful libidinal energy away from prosocial channels of collective action into pools of asocial toxicity. In helping us to understand what these shifts mean for VAWG at the micro level, we can turn to a further psychoanalytic concept – cathexis.
Taken from the German verb besetzen and corresponding noun Besetzung, cathexis refers to a desire ‘to occupy’ or take up ‘occupation’. Freud used cathexis to describe a process of investment, where libidinal energy is channelled into a particular person, object or idea (Bettelheim, 1983). Cathexis can operate in benign ways through the emotional attachment to something like a family heirloom or a photograph from which one derives comfort. However, in an elevated state of hyper-cathexis, a surfeit of psychic energy compels the subject to occupy their object of fixation in the same way that an army might lay siege to a city. When this obsessive libidinal investment is directed towards a significant other, its implications for aggressive control over that person become clear.
Hyper-cathexis forms part of a host of narcissistic subjectivities that continues to fester under neoliberal cultural conditions but their elusiveness spells significant problems for addressing the issue of VAWG. Such subjectivities simply aren’t always on show, they can seem difficult to predetermine, or they are relativised and explained away under the liberal ‘assumption of harmlessness’ that dominates ethical life across the west (see Raymen, 2023). Like rage, they can sit latent or partially repressed, re-emerging later, individually, or in concert with one another across time and space. This concept is also deeply entangled with the cultural injunction to enjoy, a term developed in Lacanian psychoanalysis and popularised in the work of Žižek (1999) to describe the neoliberal compulsion to pursue pleasure as an imperative, rather than a choice.
Within the context of the issues outlined in previous posts, at the Macro and Meso levels, this injunction is filtered through a deeply gendered and transactional lens, where women exist as objects of ornamental consumerism. In this worldview, a woman’s value is derived from her status as a possession – something to be acquired, displayed, and crucially, controlled. Any challenge to this dynamic is not merely seen as defiance but as a violation of libidinal drives. Here, the cultural mandate to consume and enjoy collides with hyper-cathexis, producing a distorted justification for violence. In this logic, objectification itself becomes a form of consumption, and VAWG is reframed as an assertion of male entitlement or a perverse form of pleasure.
A further concept worth delineating here is Freud’s (1926) idea of the symptom. This refers to the unconscious formation that emerges as a compromise between repressed desires and the constraints of social reality. Symptoms, in a sense, are expressions of unresolved psychic conflicts, often appearing as repetitive compulsive behaviours that provide temporary relief but never resolve the underlying tension. Put simply, when drives are repressed and cannot find a direct mode of expression, they return as symptoms. Lacan later reworked this idea into the ‘Sinthome’, a term developed in his later seminars (Lacan, 1975-6), which moves beyond the symptom as something to be deciphered and instead suggests that certain formations – especially those related to identity – become structural to the subject. The Sinthome is not simply a sign of repression, but a fundamental mode of being, a unique knotting of the Real, Symbolic, and Imaginary that holds a subject together.
Here, the Sinthome actually directs us towards something much more enduring than Symptoms that provide us with temporary outlets for unresolved psychic tensions. Instead of operating as episodic expressions of conflict, it becomes integrated and woven into the subject’s very mode of being. This distinction is key for understanding VAWG as we may anticipate that misogynistic attitudes and behaviours will disperse, even for a short period of time, once immediate frustrations are resolved if functioning merely as Symptoms. However, Sinthomatically they are part of the psychic structure through which the subject organises their relationship to others, identity, and enjoyment.
Thus, the macro-level conditions, as a result of neoliberal precarity, alongside the meso-level circulation of misogynistic narratives should not be viewed as mechanically producing violence. Instead, they function as symbolic resources whereby subjects construct Sinthomatic attachments. Here, online influencers, reactionary communities and consumer culture alike offer ready-made explanations for feelings of humiliation, failure and lack. Repeatedly identifying with these narratives can generate incorporation of misogyny into the subject’s psychic economy as a stabilising framework that organises desire and enjoyment.
Ultimately, in the context of VAWG, the concepts outlined throughout this post help us understand how misogyny operates not just as an ideology but as a consequence of deeply embedded, micro psychic structures and how these interact with the macro level socio-symbolic order and meso level communities. Figures like Tate offer a symptomatic response to a broader crisis of masculine identity under neoliberalism, a system which has failed in its promises to deliver satisfaction. Women, framed as both barriers to male enjoyment and possessors of an elusive satisfaction, become targets of envy and aggression. The hyper-cathexis of women as objects of consumption is not just a cultural byproduct but a Sinthomatic structure – a stabilising psychic formation that knots together experiences of economic insecurity, narcissistic injury, frustrated desire and fantasies of stolen enjoyment. One that ultimately, provides a false sense of stability and coherence for disaffected men and boys. Here, the compulsion to degrade, dominate or inflict serious physical and psychological harm upon women is not simply about power, but maintaining a fragile psychic equilibrium, where violence, in all its forms, serve as ritualised acts temporarily alleviating a deeper underlying crisis.
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